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By Anthony Malibu
In trying to reverse a break up, one of the biggest obstacles is getting your ex to miss you. Most people attempting to get back together with an ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend fail at this, and even worse, they don’t realize it’s their own fault. They simply believe their ex no longer has the same feelings for them.
In reality however, your ex’s feelings for you are still there. Breaking up didn’t just cause them to dissolve overnight… your ex instead chose to push them aside and try not to think about them. This is how they plan to make the breakup ‘stick’, and it’s up to you to not let that happen.
Creating an environment in which your ex misses you is both easy and hard. What you have to do is actually pretty simple: you need to withdraw completely from your exboyfriend or exgirlfriend’s life. By withdraw, I mean absolutely no contact. And this is the hard part, because right after you get dumped the tendency is to reach out to your ex as much as possible and try to get them to change their mind.
Picture it from your ex’s point of view. He or she just made a very difficult decision: ending a relationship. They then had to face you, and tell you of their decision. From here, they already feel awkward. Right now they just want to be left alone. They may even be feeling down about things, and just want some time to themselves… and here you are trying to call them, text-message them, email them, and may even be showing up to see them or leave notes on their car.
Making your ex miss you involves none of these things. Imagine the above scenario, only this time you actually let your ex have all the space he or she needs. Instead of overly trying to contact your ex, you make absolutely no communication with them at all. What will your ex do?
The answer is simple: they’ll start to think about you. They’ll think about the relationship first, and they’ll weigh the decision to break up in their minds. Then they’ll get lonely. Without you giving them the constant reassurance of contact, they’ve got to finally see what things will be like without you.
Also, your ex will wonder why you’ve stopped chasing them. He or she will want to know if you’ve met someone else, and are about to move in with your new life and leave them behind. Yes, even though your ex broke up with you, he or she does NOT want to see you successfully involved in a new relationship… at least, not until they are.
This is what makes your ex miss you – not calling them and professing your undying love. The lack of seeing and hearing from you is always a hundred times more powerful than any note or card you could write them. Do yourself a favor and stand back after your exboyfriend or exgirlfriend breaks up with you. If you want your ex back? It’s the best thing you can do to make them need you again.
About the Author: For the complete step-by-step process to getting your ex back again, check out
Making Your Ex Girlfriend Miss You
and
Making Your Ex Boyfriend Miss You
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